Everything will be ok!!!
“Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass.”
—Daniell Koepke
Leadership in Liminal Times
I just read this article in the Harvard Business Review. There is much for me to ponder on:
Leaders have always shown their mettle in times of liminality. The term comes from Arnold van Gennep, the Belgian anthropologist who first outlined the common patterns in how cultures mark transitions from one human state to another (for example, from adolescence to adulthood). In his 1909 book The Rites of Passage he described three stages of separation from one world and entry into another. The liminal (or threshold) stage is central. Commenting later on van Gennep’s work, anthropologist Victor Turner explained it as “a moment when those being moved in accordance with a cultural script were liberated from normative demands, when they were, indeed, betwixt and between successive lodgments in jural political systems. In this gap between ordered worlds almost anything may happen.”
Organizations must also periodically go through such wrenching times of transition, and it is during such liminal times that leaders have their greatest impact. They must manage to both craft the new world with smart strategy, often in the wake of disruption, and cause the organization to embrace the required change. Lou Gerstner’s arrival at IBM in 1993 is a classic example of leadership through a liminal period. Parachuted in to salvage a beleaguered organization, he pushed the company toward a new way of thinking, ultimately growing IBM’s value and revenues by more than 40 percent.
Another key passage is this:
Times of liminality are disconcertingly chaotic; therefore, a leader’s job is to provide some firm footing for people, with assurances of what will not keep changing. Gerstner did this with his clear and consistent view of where IBM needed to go, and Lafley did it with his reassertion of bedrock values. Great leaders also act as mentors, providing counsel and coaching to the people in the organization during various stages of transition. And perhaps the ultimate work of leaders in times of organizational change is to ensure high engagement levels.
I few months ago at the end of a retreat I was told that I was in a liminal space. I have wondered what this means in my own leadership? Much of what I thought I would be leading in no longer there. But, while I continue to breathe it’s not over yet.
Like what Seth Godin says to do:
Make two lists. One that lists all your obstacles:
The defects in your family situation, the criticisms your work has received lately. It is a list of people who have better luck than you and moments you’ve been shafted and misunderstood.
Then the other is the good stuff:
The lucky breaks, the advantages, the good feedback, your trusted network. It talks about the accident of being born in the right time and the right place, your health, your freedom. It features your education, your connection to the marketplace and just about every nice thing someone has said about you in the last week or month.
Which one do you choose to read?
http://blogs.hbr.org/2014/10/leadership-in-liminal-times/
Am I happy or unhappy
I find it sad that we live in a world where right and wrong is determined by whether we are happy. By doing this a person is making the ultimate selfish comment. “I am happy when things work out my way” The insinuation is that I must be right if I feel happy. I am unhappy when things are not working out my way. Something must be wrong if this is occurring. I will either blame other people or God for this problem. Either response reflects the immaturity of childishness by demonstrating determining our place in the world on the basis of how the world is responding to me. Personal desire is the benchmark for right and wrong.
It has struck me recently that when dealing with conflict in my workplace that some people have never progressed simple childish responses. And ultimately if the decisions that I make don’t make them happy then I am wrong.
I hope that my children are able to grow beyond this. I don’t want to raise emotional infants. I hope that my children are able to see the world through other people’s eyes as well as their own. So that they don’t live in the illusion that simply because they are happy that everything else is alright.
A prayer
“Almighty . . .
Forgive
My doubt,
My anger
My pride.
By Thy mercy
Abase me,
By Thy strictness
Raise me up.”
“Have mercy
Upon us.
Have mercy
Upon our efforts,
That we
Before Thee,
In love and in faith,
Righteousness und humility,
May follow Thee,
With self-denial, steadfastness, and courage,
And meet Thee
In the silence.
Give us
A pure heart
That we may see Thee,
A humble heart
That we may hear Thee,
A heart of love
That we may serve Thee,
A heart of faith
That we may live Thee.
Thou
Whom I do not know
But Whose I am.
Thou
Whom I do not comprehend
But Who hast dedicated me
To my fate.
Thou –“
Everyday spirituality
Sometimes I long to sit and reach out to spiritual world. I want to sit and read books and meditate and contemplate life. I want to think about higher things and not deal with the corruption that we face with our physical world. But, I think that I am learning that this will never happen unless I remove myself from all reality. Spirituality must be able to deal with reality and importantly it must be able to deal with our physical reality.
The heart of the matter
The Lord said, “I myself will dream a dream within you. Good dreams come from me, you know. My dreams seem impossible, not too practical, not for the cautious man or woman. A little risky sometimes, a trifle brash perhaps. Some of my friends prefer to rest more comfortable in sounder sleep with vision less eyes. But for those who share my dreams I ask a little patience, a little humour, a little courage, and a listening heart – I will do the rest. Then they will risk and ponder at their daring, run and marvel at their speed, build and stand in awe at the beauty of their building. You will meet me often as you work – in your companions who share your risk, in your friends who believe in you enough to lend their own dreams, their own hands, their own hearts in your building: in the people who find your doorway, stay awhile and walk away knowing that they too can find a dream. There will be sun filled days and sometimes it will rain a – little variety-. Both come from me. So, come, be content. It is my dream you dream. My caring you witness. My love you share. And this will be the heart of the matter.” (Author Unknown)
Yesterday we were the part of a new venture in the spirit. Soul Whispers. No web page yet but when it comes I will let you know. We all have a dance and for each of us it will have a unique tempo and rhythm. This was handed out to all of us who were there to encourage Bruce on his journey.
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Rediscovering our workplace soul
The industrial revolution changed not only manufacturing processes it also changed the very fabric of society and these changes continued through the 20th century and into our present time. As society moved from being farming communities and we began to spend long hours working in factories the way that families related changed. Life was no longer so integrated. We were moved from the source of our food production. Families were reduced to the immediate context of mother, father and children. Communities were substituted for housing developments that in suburbia became dormitories. They were the retreat that people came to after spending eight or more hours at work and up to 3 or 4 hours more commuting to their work. To live in these suburbs requires no commitment to its well being or function. This is all done by other community developers.
I like what Tim Costello says in his chapter on vocation from his book Tips from a Travelling Soul Searcher.
Perhaps life is not a race whose only goal is being foremost. Perhaps the truth lies in what most of the world outside the modern west has always believed, namely that there are practices in life, good in themselves, which are inherently fulfilling. Perhaps work that is intrinsically rewarding is better for human beings than work that is only extrinsically rewarded. Perhaps enduring commitment to those we love and civic friendship toward our fellow citizens are preferable to restless competition and anxious self defense. Perhaps common worship, in which we express gratitude and wonder in the face of the mystery of being itself, is the most important thin of all. If so we will have to change our lives and being to remember what we have been happier to forget. (Holiness of the Heart, quoted by Costello)
Today most jobs are regarded as commodities. Once what teachers, lawyers, bankers other professions did was seen as a benefit to their community. Their value was not just tied to the size of their pay packet. This has changed and a profession has become a commodity their where their services are contracted and tied to their economic production. Security, community, belonging are gone replaced .Many professionals are mourning their loss of vocation not just because they have lost their security but because they no longer have a tangible contribution to the benefit and welfare of their community
The key to discovering your workplace soul will be to discover that sense of vocation. To be able to remember those things that seem to be forgotten in today’s fast paced world. To relocate ourselves in the context of a meaningful community were we once again learn to talk and listen, and where we are able to be valued because of our spirit and not what we produce
It will be those organisations who are able to provide such a context that will provide an enduring contribution for the future. And those people who are able to contribute to such a context will rediscover something of the true intention of “work”. For them it will be transformed from what is often seen as a derogatory term to a sense of rediscovered calling and vocation.
Finding purpose in life – connecting beyond ourselves
Finding an adequate life purpose for many is a lifelong quest. It can create a dull ache that pounds away and results in an endless succession of activities for the seeker. In the end it can leave many of us feeling dissatisfied and disillusioned.
The issue for us is finding a purpose that is big enough to sustain us through life. So a job in a world that no longer holds the promise of lifelong employment is not good enough. A marriage in a world that has a 50% divorce rate is also inadequate. Personal growth in a world that has a 100% death rate also has obvious limitations.
Once you discover and embrace your life purpose, are you set for the rest of your life? Do you keep fulfilling that same purpose until you die? Or can your purpose change over time?
Truthfully I think the answer is a little of both. There is a permanent, unchanging aspect of my purpose, and that aspect is growth. I have an undeniably strong sense that I’m here to grow, and that sense has never wavered. I imagine that conscious growth will always be part of my purpose. (Steve Pavlina)
I think that Steve is right that our life purpose does have different aspects. Although I would think that once we find a purpose big enough it will then remain with us.
What can often happen is that we can confuse roles with life purpose. Once again it may be true for us to include what we do as a part of our life purpose. But this will also leave us shortchanged if we fail to connect to a bigger picture that is beyond ourselves.
Purpose therefore must be connected to our spirituality. To connecting to the wider world and to a broader community and a higher authority. Putting these things in place in our lives will allow us give meaning to those subordinate purposes.
Homeless Lessons
Tonight I did my usual Sunday evening routine of feeding the homeless at a popular beach near our place. I have been doing for a few months now and am getting to know some of the people quite well. It is a good reminder when talking with these people to realise that life is capable of giving us all some hard knocks.
As I have listened to the stories of these people I have realised that wherever we live and whatever we look like life can deal some very unfair hands. Who am I to say that I would react any differently if I were placed in the same situation.
What I have also sought to do is to listen to their stories and value these people’s lives. I have learned the value of community and that we all have a need to connect to each other’s story. For example tonight one of the guys told me that he was battling bone cancer. For a year and a half the doctors had treated him as less than human and failed to diagnose and treat his cancer properly in its early stages. Because of this the cancer has spread and has become far more serious. In the midst of this the homeless community has cared for him and shown a genuine concern. What a shame his life wasn’t valued higher at an earlier stage of his cancer.
I have learned that life is about caring and giving. If my faith is just about myself and my knowledge of God then it is sadly lacking. In this situation where I thought that it was up to me to give I have realised that I have also received. But this has not been the case in this work, I have also received greatly through being able to give.
Spiritual Growth
Vygotsky, has brought many new insights to the world of education that can be applied to one’s spiritual growth. The foundational premise of Vygotsky’s concept of development is that the formation of the mind or cognition is dependent on the social context in which an individual lives.
Vygotsky’s sociocultural approach to developmentalism.
The following insights can be gleaned from his writings and it is posited that a integrated application of his developmental principles form a solid foundation for one’s spiritual growth, sustainable ministry and continued attendance to the things of God.
Spiritual growth begins outside the individual. Spiritual growth is not simply an internal process, but is partially an acquisition from the community of faith in which the individual engages. While spirituality is often perceived as an individual or personal quality, it also has a social or cooperate dimension. Most ministers would agree that Scripture asserts one’s belonging to God’s community, the church but its application to one’s personal spiritual growth is uncertain. This dichotomy is expressed by many who preach the need for the church but view the ‘real work’ of spiritual growth taking place privately. Both must be held as true if spiritual growth is to occur within one’s ministry context.
Spiritual growth is holistic. To ensure that one is able to sustain their ministry and guard against burnout requires one to view themselves in a holistic manner. Spiritual growth is not the result of a single factor, but of multiple factors, both individual and social, which coalesce within the individual. Application of a single devotional method or community form does not allow one’s developmental areas to mature. Vygotsky brings a new perspective on the interaction of one’s physical and mental processes that is closer to the Hebrew understanding of knowledge requiring truth to be related to one’s being not merely the presence of rational proofs.
Spiritual growth is not a linear or unidirectional process. Vygotsky’s use of zones of development, rather than linear stages of advancement, adds a new approach to our understanding of spiritual growth. Instead of viewing maturity as a linear process that has some end goal growth and maturity may be seen as the complete integration of one’s developmental zones. Spiritual growth would require relationships conducive to advancing faith.
Teachers and deliberate instruction are essential for spiritual growth. According to Vygotsky, development does not occur on its own; it requires a socio-historical impetus, which for him was education, specifically schooling or intentional instruction. Intentional and unintentional instruction by the church contributes to the spiritual growth of all its members. This is instruction by a more mature member of the faith community is required for an individual to reach their formative potential. In the Church Vygotsky’s approach requires the church to function as a family, wherein the more mature members are placed in a learning context with younger members of the faith community. This is in contrast to the role assumed in many larger churches were management and organization is the main requirements of the pastor. To remain in ministry for the long term requires the Pastor to listen to elders and be teachable by their experience.
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George Carey’s spiritual journey has inspired me at times in my own spiritual journey.
In 1972 my spiritual life was a mess, to put it mildly. I was at that time teaching Christian theology at St John’sCollege, Nottingham, a leading evangelical college which trains men and women for ministry in the Church of England. Perhaps I had been too long in theological education, I don’t know, but whatever the reason I knew that my spiritual life was at a crisis point. My heart hadn’t kept pace with my head. Sometimes when I was teaching New Testament theology, I found myself thinking: “You hypocrite, you don’t really believe this do you?” But I was trapped. I had to go along with the show. I couldn’t let the side down, I had to pretend that all was well’.
In myself I was fairly normal. I wasn’t a psychiatric mess, a quivering bundle of nerves or anything like that. I was 37 at the time, a normal balanced, healthy person with no personal experience of clinical or pathological depression. I was happily married to Eileen, a marvelous person and we were blessed with four delightful children. But the experience of Christianity had somehow disappeared from my life. The great truths of evangelicalism had lost their fire and their power to convince. To all intents and purposes I was all right, but I knew if God did not intervene soon that my whole Christian existence was finished. It was that desperate. (The Church in the Marketplace p.6,7)
Carey goes on to describe he renewal through the work of the Holy Spirit. He describes the difference of this renewal and his restoration to a love of Christ, a desire to read the Scriptures, a longing to share his faith with others and a desire to praise God. Although he would not define himself as charismatic his experience demonstrated many of the features of a charismatic renewal. Mostly, he was thankful that his theology had found a living soul (Carey, p.10).The work of this “crisis” served to allow Him to continue in working with a local parish and then later to be the Archbishop of Canterbury. On concluding his ministry at Durham Carey notes that the last thing that he did there was to talk and pray with a man who wanted to know more about the Christian faith (Carey p.154).
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Journey to the Other Side
- A few years ago now I read Eddie Gibb’s book, “Church Next” and was challenged by what he saw as the future of ministry. I remember reading it to my wife and her telling me that this sounded quite scary.
- Myself – I love a challenge. Life would be boring without a risk or two.
- Every ministry conference that I have been to has suggested that this is where the church needs to be in the future.
Connecting with our spirits – Money can’t buy love
There is a great deal that is said that about money not being everything in life. This is so true. And, following up on this is the statement that, “money doesn’t make you happy.” And yes we know that this too is true.
Religious leaders have always established a strong connection between the state of our financial affairs and our connection with the transcendent.
What do you believe is the relationship between wealth and spirituality? Is there a connection between the two?
For years I feared that the pursuit of wealth would hamper my spiritual life, distract me from my spiritual path; that was one of the limiting beliefs I had that prevented me from succeeding. But I realized somewhere in my early thirties that that belief, like all others, wasn’t true in itself. There is no conflict between wealth and spirituality, unless you create it in your mind. I can pursue financial success and still have plenty of time as well for my spiritual life. And, ultimately, they’re not even two separate things: My spiritual life encompasses every moment of each day and night.
Teilhard de Chardin said one of my favorite quotes,
“We are not physical beings who may
have a spiritual experience,
we are spiritual beings having a physical experience.”We are physical beings with physical needs, emotional beings with emotional needs, mental beings with the power to fulfill our needs, and spiritual beings, every moment. Acknowledging the spiritual in ourselves and in others gives us purpose in life, and puts everything into the proper perspective.
We are not here just to become wealthy, isolated individuals. We are part of a great, mysterious, wondrous whole, and we are here to love and serve ourselves, humanity, and the whole planet, the whole environment. That’s the right perspective; that’s what is important in life.
The single most brilliant phrase I ever heard was from Ramana Maharshi, one of the greatest teachers in India in the last century. He said:
“The end of all wisdom is love,
love, love.”That’s what is important in life. If your education doesn’t result in love, for all of humanity, for the whole world then your education hasn’t been complete. Marc Allen
There are a couple of key points I think that this interview brought out:
- That our physical and spiritual selves are intrinisically connected
- There is a connection between our physical and spiritual realities – They affect each other
- Fulifillment and happiness on not dependent on wealth
- It is always nicer to be rich and fulfilled than poor and fulfilled. But both can provide a satisfied life.
- Our modern world has confused consumerism with happiness and is the poorer for it because we have not explored our spiritual journey
Ultimately it is love that will prevail – As Paul says it is what will last forever and no matter what else we do and say if we haven’t loved then we have nothing.
Happiness
My wife recently watched Insight on the Australian Television channel SBS. The program was about happiness. It reflected on what made people happy. The transcripts can be found here. It is a fascinating look at a concept that has been described as a “flow”.
PROFESSOR BOB CUMMINS, DEAKIN UNIVERSITY: We’ve been tracking the Australian population in terms of their happiness now for about five years. And one of the aspects of our measure – our measure is just seven questions that we ask people about their satisfaction with areas in their life – and the one that is most important is the one that dominated through all of those little kids’ accounts and that is connection to other people, our relationships. This seems to lie really at the heartland of our wellbeing. If we haven’t got that, then it’s very hard to achieve happiness through other means.
I would place happiness in the realm of spirituality. Because, it is not something that can really be achieved by ourselves. It always comes as an undeserved gift. And, as Bob says it has a lot to do with our connectedness and our satisfaction with those relationships. Further in the program they show that happiness has little to do with our external circumstances and give some very telling examples of people who have overcome major hurdles to discover happiness.
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Spirituality at work
Worldwide there is an increased interest in the connection between spirituality and work. Why?
There are several key factors:
- Changing work structures, flattening hierarchies and increased worker demands has left many of us too tired and stressed to be creative. On the other hand the globalization of markets requires more creativity from employees. Where do we draw this creative energy from if we are tired.
- To survive into the 21st Century, organizations must offer a greater sense of meaning and purpose for their workforce. In todays highly competitive environment, the best talent seeks out organizations that reflect their inner values and provide opportunities for personal development and community service, not just bigger salaries. We ask the big question of our employers, “What does all this really mean?”
- Spending more time at work means there is less time available for religious activities.
So people continute to search for meaning but the context in which this take place is outside many of the traditional structures that were once sought for answers. Because so much time is spent in the workplace it is an obvious point at which people will want to express meaning for their creativity.
Organisations that are able to aid their employees to make this connection will flourish in the future.
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4 key attributes people seek from their work
In our world people are no longer satisified to just see their value at work measured simply in their production capabilities. People want to bring their souls to work and most people’s souls want four things.
They want to:
- Love their jobs and find jobs they love
- Succeed in their work
- Navigate successfully through predictable life- stage transitions
- Tie their work to a higher life purpose that has personal meaning for them.
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Spirituality and work – an introduction
Maslow (1968) says that for hundreds of years humanists have tried to construct a naturalistic, psychological value system that could be derived from man’s own nature. These have all failed (p.165). He continues saying that our process of self actualisation completes as each of the lower needs are met and we are able to move forward to complete our humanness. Heaven in his terms is found within one as they self actualise. Contemporary organisational and counselling research is demonstrating a growing interest and research in the relationship with spirituality based on the assumption we are not merely physiological or psychological we are also psychospiritual (Jung, 1933).
Spirituality as a pervasive force in contemporary society is influencing several helping professions such as counseling, education, medicine, nursing, psychology, social work, education, and addictions treatment. And, it would be expected as coaching matures it too will need to include spirituality as a strategy to assist personal and organisational effectiveness. An explosion of professional and popular literature in spirituality is indicative of the resurgence of interest (Richards & Bergin, 1997).
The Dalai Lama defined spirituality by saying, “I believe that it is essential that we appreciate our potential as human beings and recognise the importance of inner transformation” (p.294). Other common perspectives share in the understanding that spirituality is the quest for meaning and mission in life, the search for harmony and wholeness in the universe, and the internalisation of a fundamental belief in an all-loving presence in the universe are lofty and honorable spiritual goals for humans. Ellison (1983) asserted that it is the spirituality of human beings that motivates and inspires them to search for meaning and purpose in life.
Mitroff and Denton (1999) found virtually unanimous agreement on the definition of spirituality among executives, managers, and workers at all levels in a variety of industries. In essence the definition of spirituality had two components: first that spirituality includes a sense of connection to something beyond the individual, and second that spirituality is a search for meaning, purpose, and integration in life.
Aquinas said that the life devoted to inner stillness and spiritual knowledge was the highest form of human activity. This would initially propose a dilemma for the career counsellor in assisting people to attain roles that are predominately orientated to the accumulation or production of materialistic. Eckhart resolves this by his comments that this dichotomy is solved through the integration of one’s activity with the spiritual self. Meaningful activity can validate one’s spirituality (quoted in Fromm).
Costello reflects this dilemma in an Australian context as he laments the loss of community and sense of purpose that people feel in their roles. He turns to Eastern wisdom and says,
“Perhaps life is not a race whose only goal is being foremost. Perhaps the truth lies in wt most of the world outside the modern west has always believed, namely that there are certain practices in life, good in themselves that are inherently fulfilling. Perhaps work that is intrinsically rewarding is better for human beings than work hat is only extrinsically rewarded. Perhaps enduring commitment to those we love and civic friendship toward our fellow citizens are preferable to restless competition and anxious self defense. . Perhaps common worship, in which we express our gratitude and wonder in the face of mystery of being itself, is the most important thing of all. If so we will all have to change our lives and begin to remember what we have been happier to forget.”
Costello (p. 69) points out the desire for humans to engage in roles that move past extrinsic reward. His own vocational journey in ministry reflects the inability of western materialism to determine one’s success.
“In hindsight I can see that my own vocation often entails the simple facilitation of the voices of others rather than the achievement or pursuit of clearly articulated goals (P.75).”
He reflects that many Australians have this sense of incompleteness. His perception mirrors Fromm’s “being mode” which is based on love, and the pleasure of sharing with others and seeing them reach their creative potential. This may involve productive activity but should not be made a pre-requisite for career success.
5 Kinds of people who affect our spiritual passion
Very Resourceful people
They ignite our passion.
VRP’s are sometimes called mentors or shapers of our life. These are the people who ignite our passion for higher performance.
Each of us can probably think of different VRP’s that have shaped our spiritual life throughout the years. Significant in my early Christian experience was a man called John Sefton. He was the dean of the Christian Community that I lived in. He impressed me with quiet approach to knowing God. His ordinariness to me was an inspiration that I too could effectively serve God.
Of course the temptation for us to want to stay in a VRP relationship forever. One in which we are constantly being renewed by the passion they have for their life’s purpose. This is unhealthy for both parties and does not allow us to develop in our lives the independent and resourceful spiritual passion we are talking about that makes one a life force for our future.
VRP’s are those whom we lean upon for direction and approval. We gain courage from their courage and maturity. They are in every sense of the word our resource, from them we can draw our first sense of passion.
Very Important People
They share our Passion
Conflict with a VIP will usually be resolved quickly and the experience not dwelt upon. When you are with a VIP facing challenges together you are aware that in partnership you.
With a VIP you don’t spend lots of time trying to get along, or debating whose philosophy will prevail, or determining whose in charge. We are bound together to get a task done and get it done we will.
I have a friend who I have known since Grade 7. One of the distinctives of our friendship is we laugh together. We know most of each other’s stories. After knowing each other for over 20 years we understand each other’s weaknesses well but don’t feel compelled to always draw attention to them. We can challenge and question each other without fear of knowing the friendship will fade away.
VIP’s share our passion. Together you stir each other up and encourage each other to better and more faithful performances. VIP’s keep us looking at the right goals; our rationalizations and excuses do not fool them. They sense when we are hurting or in need. They delight in our successes and weep with us in our disappointments.
Very Trainable People
They catch our passion.
VTP’s will tax our strength because they require our input. But, they are great to have around because we sense the possibilities in them. There is immense enjoyment in seeing a person catching hold of spiritual things.
Very Nice People
They enjoy our passion.
McDonald describes VNP’s as being like a send up he saw of breakfast cereal. They don’t snap crackle and pop. They don’t turn colours. They’re not coated in sugar and they’re not shot from guns. What do they do? They simply lie in the bowl and soak up milk.
So is the role of the VNP.
We can expend a great deal of energy on accommodating to the needs of very nice people. VIP’s and VTP’s will often accept great inconveniences to direct resources and services into an organisation. VNP’s prefer nice facilities, services delivered at convenient times, programs built in personal gain, convenience and enhancement of their own comfort.
They exhaust because of their desire to take whatever the leader has to give.
Very Draining People
They sap our passion.
This does not mean we are excused from working with and dealing with these types of people but we need to be aware that contact with them will result in a constant outflow of energy from the person ministering to them.
Any group of people you come across will have a percentage of VDP’s. Of course it is hoped that the input they receive will allow them to become trainable.
- VDP’s will be drawn to any healthy group of people. They will remain there until they become healthy or they are pushed away.
- A healthy group of people will lose its vitality if there are too many VDP’s to sustain. The life of the group becomes crises or problem orientated. Any movement toward any type of objective becomes impossible.
- Very dependent people who are permitted to relentlessly drain leaders will ultimately create a climate where no one will want to serve in a leadership capacity.
The people around us give and they take. We can expect that a flow of passion will be moving in one direction or another. We need to understand this and to plan to refresh ourselves regularly.
How we do this will be dealt with in future posts.